How to Spend Time Together as a Family When You Have Teenagers

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By Kaili Bell

Spending quality time together as a family is important at every stage of life, but it can become especially challenging during the teenage years. Teens are busy, independent, and often prefer the company of their peers to that of their parents. Still, carving out time to connect as a family remains vital—it strengthens bonds, builds trust, and creates memories that last a lifetime.

1. Involve Them in Planning

Teenagers are much more likely to engage in family activities if they feel like their voice matters. Instead of deciding everything on your own, invite them to help plan weekend outings, dinners, or movie nights.

Try this: Ask your teen to choose the movie, pick a restaurant, or suggest an activity. You might be surprised at what they come up with—especially if it’s something they’re excited to share with you.

2. Cook (and Eat) Together

You may not always get deep conversations out of your teen at the dinner table, but the act of preparing and sharing meals together creates a natural space for connection. Cooking can be fun, especially when trying new recipes or themed dinners.

Tip: Let your teen be in charge of a meal once a week—from shopping to cooking. It teaches responsibility and gives them a chance to showcase their taste and skills.

3. Respect Their Time, but Protect Some of Your Own

Teenagers often have packed schedules—sports, schoolwork, social events—and respecting that is important. However, it’s also okay to set aside non-negotiable family time, such as one evening a week where everyone unplugs and does something together.

Ideas: Game night, pizza and movie night, or even a quick family walk after dinner. Keep it short and consistent—it’s the routine that counts.

4. Travel and Explore (Even Locally)

Family vacations are great, but even a weekend road trip or exploring a new spot in your town can be enough to reset and reconnect. Experiencing something new together creates shared memories and moments of laughter and learning.

Don’t underestimate local gems: Farmers markets, nature trails, art installations, or quirky attractions can make for fun, low-pressure outings that everyone can enjoy.

5. Get Involved in Their World

One of the best ways to spend time with your teen is by taking an interest in what interests them. Whether it’s a favorite band, a gaming trend, a sport, or a creative project, showing curiosity builds connection.

Even if it’s not your thing: Watch them play a game, go to their sports event, or ask them to teach you a TikTok trend or guitar riff. The message is simple but powerful: “What matters to you matters to me.”

6. Volunteer Together

Volunteering as a family not only helps others but also strengthens your bond. It teaches empathy, cooperation, and appreciation—and it can even be fun.

Options include: Helping at a local food bank, organizing a charity walk, cleaning up a park, or supporting a cause your teen is passionate about.

Connection Over Perfection

Spending time with teenagers can look very different than when they were younger—but it’s just as important, if not more. Your teen might not always show it, but they value the connection and security that come from spending time with family.

The key is to meet them where they are—offering consistency, respect, and a willingness to share moments in ways that feel natural. In the long run, it’s those everyday efforts that build stronger relationships, trust, and memories that your teen will carry with them well into adulthood.

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Kaili is a recent graduate with a degree in advertising, where she excelled in writing and developed a strong passion for it, particularly in the realm of copywriting. She is always eager to explore new ways to combine creativity with storytelling. When she's not honing her creative skills, she focuses on fitness, enjoys unwinding with crime shows, and indulges her love for baking.